The medical definition of depression is a sustained abnormality in a person’s mood, or feelings of despair, hopelessness, and self-hatred lasting for at least two-week period. Depression is common but serious illness.
There is no clear cause for depression but life events such as death of a loved one can trigger depression. While we may associate depression with negative life events, positive life events can also trigger depression. For example, I got a scholarship to further my studies after high school. It was a great opportunity for me and I was looking forward to my new journey.
Today I have attended my son’s open day at his new school which I prayed so hard that he gets admission. It was fantastic experience for both of us, but I suddenly found myself zoned out and worrying about how I am going to afford all these as they told us about all these activities and special projects which are going to need money. At some point I was even starting to think maybe I should look for a cheaper school. Just like that, my thoughts started feeding my anxiety.
But having started to learn to control my thoughts recently, I snapped out of it. I thanked God that my son has made it into one of the best school which will afford him the opportunity to a quality education.
Our brains are future-oriented which tends to make our stress levels to be sky high. Majority of our worries deal with the issues of the future, what will happen tomorrow, next week, next year, etc. Have you ever realised that most of the things we worry about have no immediate solution? Because our brains are designed to prefer immediate results. Anxiety knocks on our doors when this doesn’t not happen! As Lao Tzu puts it; if you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future”
Warning Signs of Suicide
•Direct comments (“I’m going to kill myself”)
•A suicide plan of how, what, where they intend to do it
•Collecting drugs, weapons
•Writing/drawing about death and dying
•Giving away possessions and finalising affairs
•Dramatic changes in mood
•Depression, withdrawal from loved one’s.
•Carelessness, more risk-taking behaviour
•No reason for living, no sense of purpose in life.
Recognise the signs and help save a life.
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I’m obsessed with taking pictures of sunrise because of what it represents. Every morning we are presented with an opportunity to start afresh and put into practice the lessons we learned from yesterdays. I took the above picture on my recent family vacation in Durban. I stood there mesmerized with the realization of the new opportunities and gifts it brings. All of a sudden I was beaming with excitement and full of hope. And yes what a great day it was!
Dwelling in the past prevent us to move on from our failures and pain. We get so stuck up on how bad we screwed up or how we could’ve done better and as a result we let it define us.
I have learned to forget my past, to forgive myself and begin again – and I must say it has now became easier. I no longer find myself crying in the corner contemplating on how I could’ve done better. The amazing thing about this life is we can always begin again.
Hey there, My name is Dikeledi and I reside in Johannesburg, South Africa.