I don’t know about you, until recently I never thought I could share my struggles because people would think I am weak. I was afraid they wouldn’t respect me anymore and that they would judge me. For years I struggled with anxiety and depression and nobody knew. I hid it so well, careful not to break down in front of people when emotions overwhelmed. My friends used to say I was the strongest woman they knew. They came to me with their problems and I would encourage and comfort them. Little did they know I was breaking down in pieces within.
Its only until few years back when I was going through the “monster of a storm” when a fellow church goer shared her struggle story with me and how she conquered through it all when I realised I wasn’t alone. That it was OK to be imperfect!
From that day I’ve sworn to share my struggles with those going through darkest times to let them know that someone has been there and that it is going to be ok.
Unfortunately, we live in a world of social media and we are sometimes disconnected from real life. We hide our mess, and we show our best only. Everyone wants people to think they’re happy, things are going well, and that life is good all the time and no one likes to show off the ugly side of their life. We are then caught comparing our lives to those we see on social media and this often leads to us to believe that we are failures, not successful enough, etc.
Imagine if everyone shared both the best and worst moments of their lives. Most of young girls and boys (adults too) out there would know that it is ok to be imperfect. They would not be under so much pressure to be perfect, to have latest gadget, drive that fancy car they can’t afford all in the name of trying to be like their peers on social media.
Sharing your struggle stories helps bring greater healing. It helps you to feel lighter, not needing to pretend everything is okay when it’s not. It helps others to know that they aren’t the only ones that go through tough times. It also serves to form deeper connections with others, as they realize that we’re all learning from this life, that nobody actually “got this”.
Sharing your struggles can inspire others to keep trying.
Thank you for reading and I pray you never lose hope. May all your dreams come true.
Hey there, My name is Dikeledi and I reside in Johannesburg, South Africa.